Both/And

Summoning agency
alongside ambivalence.

(An excerpt from Unbecoming)

This is the era,
where she gets to decide.

Right now, in this moment,
what is it that she wants?

To push it forward,
or to let it be.

To sleep a little longer,
or to pursue her dreams.

To follow their wisdom,
or to listen to her own.

To take the winding road,
or to speed down the interstate.

To say “yes” to their request,
or to hold firmly to her boundary.

There is no wrong choice.
No right ones, either.

It’ll take finely-tuned wisdom —
guts, really — to know the choice which is hers.

And the choice may change
within the hour,
within the season,
within the decade.

She knows it’s okay to change her mind,
if that’s even what it is —

let’s call it attunement

That magical, invisible force that allows you
to feel the need before it has the words to
speak …

… and then to respond.

To her context
To her mood
To her conviction
To herself

The question is not which choice is “right”?

The question simply is: 
what does she need, right now?

Only she gets to decide.

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Unbecoming: Facing the Dark to Find the Light